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4THWAVENOW | A COMMUNITY OF PEOPLE WHO QUESTION THEABOUTFAQSRESEARCHRESOURCE INDEXTEEN DESISTERQUEER KID STUFF by 4thwavenow. 8. On April 7, 2021, the UC San Francisco Child and Adolescent Gender Center offered a Zoom “training” entitled “Fertility Issues for Transgender and Nonbinary Youth.”. Advertised widely on Facebook, the session was led by well-known gender therapist Diane Ehrensaft and a colleague, and was attended by

over 100 people via

PARENTS OF TRANSGENDER ADULTS by Niniane, Kellogmom, Gender Critical Dad, Marge Bouvier Simpson, Mary, & Cat. There is a new forum for parents of gender dysphoric kids, teens, and young adults.We’re here to provide peer support for parents who would like a thoughtful and cautious approach to DUTCH PUBERTY-BLOCKER PIONEER: STOP “BLINDLY ADOPTING OUR What makes this article surprising is that it was a Dutch team of researcher-clinicians (one of whom is extensively quoted in the piece) who pioneered the use of puberty blockers in children with gender dysphoria; this practice is now widespread in the western world. VU University Medical Center, Amsterdam. After reading this article, I

went

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over 100 people via

PARENTS, KEEP LISTENING TO YOUR GUT—NOT THE GENDER Parents, keep listening to your gut—not the gender therapist. Posted on December 4, 2015. by 4thwavenow. A few months ago, my teenage daughter stopped trying to “pass” as male. She dropped the self -defined-as-male uniform (emphasis on SELF), the stereotyped swagger and the fake-deepened voice and —moved on. TESTOSTERONE & YOUNG FEMALES: WHAT IS KNOWN ABOUT LIFELONG Maybe testosterone really is the fountain of youth, providing strength, energy, vitality and virility to brave young gender outlaws, as they sacrifice their fertility to give birth to their authentic selves with the eager assistance of the medical and pharmaceutical industries. Maybe. But medical history is littered with miracle cures

gone wrong.

CARI STELLA

Cari is a 22-year-old detransitioned woman who was interviewed recently on 4thWaveNow about her experiences as a former teen client of Transactive Gender Center in Portland, OR. Cari wrote to us today to announce an online survey she has created for women who are reclaiming themselves as female. TEEN DECIDES SHE’S NOT TRANS, AFTER ALL, BUT STRUGGLES Teen decides she’s not trans, after all, but struggles with peer pressure. Posted on January 18, 2016. by 4thwavenow. The guest post below, by pj white, is the personal account of a mother whose teen daughter temporarily identified as “trans,” but at 16, desisted. While “gender specialists” and researchers often discuss younger “THE MONEY IS FLOWING” TO “SUCK PEOPLE IN:” VAGINOPLASTY It’s only a two-minute clip, but it packs a wallop. We see Jazz crying while saying “I just really hate myself” which is intense enough (given Jazz’s admission in the prior season of being suicidally depressed). But the big news is Jazz’s desire to seek bottom surgery. In the trailer, we see Jazz in three different

doctors’ offices.

THE 41% TRANS SUICIDE ATTEMPT RATE: A TALE OF FLAWED DATA The Williams Institute analysis raises many more questions than it answers. It seems clear that being–or, more precisely, identifying as–some flavor of gender nonconforming or trans is correlated with a high rate of self harming behaviors. Mental health problems, coupled with a history of physical and/or sexual abuse or trauma, are associated with the highest risk of self harm. 4THWAVENOW | A COMMUNITY OF PEOPLE WHO QUESTION THEABOUTFAQSRESEARCHRESOURCE INDEXTEEN DESISTERQUEER KID STUFF by 4thwavenow. 8. On April 7, 2021, the UC San Francisco Child and Adolescent Gender Center offered a Zoom “training” entitled “Fertility Issues for Transgender and Nonbinary Youth.”. Advertised widely on Facebook, the session was led by well-known gender therapist Diane Ehrensaft and a colleague, and was attended by

over 100 people via

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THE 41% TRANS SUICIDE ATTEMPT RATE: A TALE OF FLAWED DATA The Williams Institute analysis raises many more questions than it answers. It seems clear that being–or, more precisely, identifying as–some flavor of gender nonconforming or trans is correlated with a high rate of self harming behaviors. Mental health problems, coupled with a history of physical and/or sexual abuse or trauma, are associated with the highest risk of self harm. DUTCH PUBERTY-BLOCKER PIONEER: STOP “BLINDLY ADOPTING OUR What makes this article surprising is that it was a Dutch team of researcher-clinicians (one of whom is extensively quoted in the piece) who pioneered the use of puberty blockers in children with gender dysphoria; this practice is now widespread in the western world. VU University Medical Center, Amsterdam. After reading this article, I

went

CATCHING UP WITH RENOWNED PHALLOPLASTY SURGEON, DR. CURTIS Since our last coverage of medical malpractice litigation against renowned phalloplasty surgeon Curtis Crane, M.D., we’ve received frequent inquiries about the current status of the lawsuits and his practice. Research has revealed some interesting facts and circumstances about Dr. Crane. First, as of this writing, there no longer appear to be any open civil cases against Dr. Crane in the THE ADOLESCENT TRANS TREND: 10 INFLUENCES The below post is written by Overwhelmed, 4thWaveNow contributor and the mother of a teen daughter who insisted she was transgender, but who subsequently changed her mind.Other parents in the same situation have shared their experiences on 4thWaveNow, and a new research study (currently recruiting) is the first to systematically examine the phenomenon of “trans trending” amongst tweens

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First and foremost, orgasm is never mentioned in this short report focused on masturbation. The subjects were thirteen children between the ages of 4 and 36 months, not “18 months and nine” years old, as she claims. Moreover, only three of the thirteen young ones studied were male, the group of people Arlene is concerned with in her FB

post.

TRANSACTIVE GENDER CENTER 22. Cari is a 22-year-old detransitioned woman who was interviewed recently on 4thWaveNow about her experiences as a former teen client of Transactive Gender Center in Portland, OR. Cari wrote to us today to announce an online survey she has created for women who are reclaiming themselves as female. GENDER AFFIRMING SURGERIES FOR MINORS So even some very liberal states (like Massachusetts) only cover gender reassignment surgeries for people over 18. (Note: In some states where Medicaid will not cover genital surgeries for those under 18, it will cover mastectomies on a case-by-case basis. GENDER DYSPHORIA IS NOT ONE THING by J. Michael Bailey, Ph.D and Ray Blanchard, Ph.D. This is the second in a series of articles authored by Drs. Bailey and Blanchard; see here for their first piece. Many parents who are part of the 4thWaveNow community have daughters who fit the profile of a BENJI/GNC_CENTRIC: ON BEING KICKED OFF TWITTER AND MEDIUM Benji/gnc_centric—in the words of her now-suspended Twitter profile—is a “socially detransitioned dysphoric female,” a “homoSEXUal not homoGENDERal” lesbian. Benji, a Canadian activist, writer, and YouTuber, writes here about how she was recently suspended from Twitter and subsequently Medium for (she believes) referring to

the

FORMER PHALLOPLASTY PATIENT OF DR. CURTIS CRANE SPEAKS OUT Former phalloplasty patient of Dr. Curtis Crane speaks out. In response to our most recent article about Dr. Curtis Crane, we have been contacted by one of Crane’s former patients, who asked us to share this video. Be aware that the video contains graphic images and video footage pertaining to the phalloplasty surgery and complications

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CELEB TRANS KIDS: WILL THE GENDER FAIRY BRING DREAMS—OR GENITAL

SURGERY NIGHTMARES?

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Posted on December 30, 2019

by 4thwavenow

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_Fourth in our series featuring Dr. Curtis Crane, phalloplasty surgeon. Part 1 is here

.

Part 2 is here

.

Part 3 is here

.

_

_4thWaveNow contributor Worriedmom has practiced civil litigation for many years in federal and state courts._ -------------------------

BY WORRIEDMOM

These days, the world (or at least the media) certainly does not seem in short supply of telegenic, winsome, and appealing “transgender children.” One recent example is Jacob LeMay, pictured here, who as a nine-year old prompted Presidential candidate Elizabeth Warren to commit to seeking Jacob’s input and guidance on her choice for Secretary of Education.

This

wasn’t Jacob’s first time in the spotlight, either. As a transgender five-year-old

,

Jacob’s story was featured on NBC Nightly News

and the Today Show

.

Because at the age of four, sensitive to what they interpreted as gender distress on his part, Jacob’s parents offered “a number of

choices,”

one of which was whether to start life anew as a boy.

Jacob’s

parents have been generous with their transgender parenting expertise, sharing insights with Harvard’s Graduate School of Education

,

Good Morning America

,

New Hampshire Public Radio

,

“Here and Now” on Boston’s WBUR

,

and MSNBC

,

among others. Jacob’s mother, Mimi, has already written her memoir chronicling the family’s journey

.

Some might find the idea of a memoir just a bit premature given that Jacob’s transgender journey is, at this point, only five years in duration, but honestly, you’d have to be a real meanie to object. Jacob is an undeniably cute kid, the entire family is good-looking, relatable, and well-educated, and they certainly seem to care a great deal about Jacob, as well as Jacob’s future well-being. And while one might envision a series of memoirs, detailing Jacob’s life of fulfillment, it’s also entirely possible that this will be the first and only installment.

Even

in the few short years since the “transgender child” became the media’s go-to story, several stars have skyrocketed to prominence, only to disappear. Remember Coy Mathis’ brave fight to use the little girls’ room at age six? No word on Coy’s doings since Coy was featured in a 2016 documentary film, “Growing Up Coy.” Similarly, Willa Naylor

,

the transgender eight year old and author whose sympathetic story motivated the entire country of Malta to change its laws, has been radio silent since 2016. Lila Perry, the Missouri high school student whose quest to use the girls’ bathrooms and locker rooms triggered a student walk-out

,

similarly has not been heard from since 2015. Where do they all go? It may be that Jacob’s transgender story will, at some point, go dark. We may never know whether Jacob, who like the others has been frequently lauded as “brave” and “inspirational,” will have the happy ending that early childhood transition, we are told, is guaranteed to produce. Stories are important, but unfinished stories can be deceptive. Before we can confidently predict that Jacob, and peers will live “happily ever after,” we should take a look at another story. This story received no media attention. There are no soft-focus interviews, picture books, or product tie-ins. This is the story of M. The only reason we know about M’s story at all is because M was one of at least nine former patients of Dr. Curtis Crane

,

late of San Francisco and currently of Austin, Texas, who filed medical malpractice or other personal injury cases against Dr. Crane. M’s case (CGC-17-560690) was, like the others, filed in the civil division of the San Francisco Superior Court under the pseudonym “John Doe.” (Note: Although M was repeatedly “doxxed” in the court records by the attorneys on all sides, we retain his privacy here, as we have no interest in shaming or causing further sadness to M .) The court file reveals M’s journey to manhood, which, in his own words, entailed “many surgeries.” M’s transition journey is detailed below and all of the information is taken directly from the

court file:

* According to his attestation, M’s efforts to become a man began in late 2003 with a “social transition.” According to medical records, M was born in 1977, which made him 26 years old at the commencement of the transformation process. * In 2004, about six months after his social transition, M began treatment with male hormones. * In 2005, M received a bilateral mastectomy. * In 2006 M received a total abdominal hysterectomy with bilateral salpingo-oophorectomy (which meant that M’s uterus, cervix, fallopian tubes and ovaries were all surgically removed). * In 2009, M received a metoidioplasty, an operation that uses tissue from the clitoris, which has typically been enlarged from testosterone use, to form a “neo-penis.” This operation was performed by the famous Dr. Miroslav Djordjević of Serbia, which was in the process of becoming an international hub of transgender surgery

.

Alas, M’s gender journey was far from over. * In 2011, M underwent his first phalloplasty or surgical construction of a penis, with Dr. Toby Meltzer. This operation was not planned to, and did not, include construction of a functioning urethra. (We note that Dr. Meltzer has also been widely panned by at least some of his SRS patients.) The tissue to form the neophallus in the 2011 surgery was apparently taken from M’s back, and left behind a “dog ear.” During the 2011 surgery with Dr. Meltzer, M also received a vaginectomy (surgical removal of the vagina) and a scrotoplasty (construction of an artificial scrotum). After all of this, M continued to suffer from gender dysphoria. In 2014, M came under the care of Dr. Curtis Crane. The surgical consent form indicates that M was to receive:

The

plan for this surgery was to remove the “old” phallus from 2011, and to re-construct a new one, this time with tissue from M’s left forearm (M underwent electrolysis and laser hair removal on the forearm area for six months prior to the surgery to prepare the skin for transplant). The new penis would have a functioning urethra. The lawsuit against Dr. Crane arose because, while M alleged that he repeatedly told Dr. Crane and his staff that he did not need a vaginectomy and a scrotoplasty, those having already been performed by Dr. Meltzer in 2011, M stated that Dr. Crane over-rode his instructions and both cut into the area where M’s vagina had previously been, and damaged and dis-placed M’s scrotum (as discussed more fully below). The legal papers contain another interesting and tantalizing suggestion that is never developed in the record. Specifically, M alleges that when M complained to Dr. Crane that vaginectomy and scrotoplasty were listed on M’s informed consent document, when those operations were not supposed to be performed, Dr. Crane reassured M that they were listed on the document either as a typo or _for billing purposes __. _A curious fact, if true. According to court records, M’s lawsuit against Dr. Crane was dismissed on March 15, 2019. As is customary, there is no indication whether Dr. Crane, or his insurer, paid any damages to M. Following the 2015 phalloplasty and other procedures with Dr. Crane, incredibly, M required at least three additional surgeries. In April 2016, M underwent a “phallus shortening” procedure, which involved “telescoping entire phallus into suprapubic area.” In November 2017 M went to Cedars-Sinai Hospital in Los Angeles and received a urethroplasty in a two-stage procedure, to close the neourethra which was placed by Dr. Crane. Then, in March 2018, Dr. Garcia and another surgeon again performed surgery on M, this time to “re-place” the existing penis (which was also displaced), and to re-orient M’s scrotum. In his lawsuit against Dr. Crane, M alleged that during the 2015 surgery, Dr. Crane had “displaced” his scrotum by three centimeters, leaving it immediately adjacent to his anus. Moreover, M claimed, Dr. Crane had moved M’s testicles from their customary “side by side” position and re-placed them one in front of the

other.

In March 2019 (following the three post-Crane surgeries), M stated that he still had an abscess in his pelvis where his vagina had been.

Moreover,

At

this point, words cannot really begin to describe M’s ordeal. M was forced to take off work from September 2015 through February 2016 (5 months), then returned to work in March of 2016, but had to stop working again in November 2017. It’s unknown whether he ever returned to full-time work (in a court filing dated March 2019, M stated that he had been out of work for “the majority” of the past three years). The filing also stated that, because of the surgeries he had undergone, M had to assume a new job for which he was paid 50% less, and was then living “paycheck to paycheck.” M alleged that his out of pocket expenses for the September 2015 surgery with Dr. Crane were approximately $6,500, while his out of pocket expenses for the November 2017 surgery with Dr. Garcia were approximately $4,000, and he expected to spend about $4,000 more for the “last” surgery in the spring of 2018. M’s out of pocket expenses pale in comparison to the price tag for the surgery performed by Dr. Crane, however, which was approved by the Ontario Ministry of Health and Long-term Care in the amount of $126,508. Given that fact, the total financial cost of M’s gender journey is no doubt somewhere north of a million; the personal cost is, of course, incalculable. And yet M’s gender dysphoria endures.

So

returning to the celebrity trans kids at the beginning of this article: What do you suppose young Jacob, and Jacob’s transgender peers, are hearing about their likely futures? Do you think that, being young children after all, they expect that one day the Gender Fairy will pay a visit? Or do they believe that, as Diane Ehrensaft

claims

,

“God got it wrong,” and someday they will return to the womb and re-emerge as their correct gender? After all, nobody is better at magical thinking than young children

,

and raising a girl as a boy, or vice-versa, is implicitly, if not explicitly, affirming the child in the belief that one day her wish

will come true.

M’s phalloplasty story isn’t suitable bed-time fare, at least not for Jacob. But for Jacob’s parents, and _their_ many peers, perhaps it should be. After all, the Gender Fairy could someday deliver a real-life nightmare. Posted in Uncategorized

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BENJI/GNC_CENTRIC: ON BEING KICKED OFF TWITTER AND MEDIUM

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Posted on December 27, 2019

by 4thwavenow

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BY BENJI, GNC_CENTRIC _ __Benji/gnc_centric—in the words of her now-suspended Twitter profile—is a “socially detransitioned dysphoric female,” a “homoSEXUal not homoGENDERal” lesbian. Benji, a Canadian activist, writer, and YouTuber

, writes

here about how she was recently suspended from Twitter and subsequently Medium for (she believes) referring to the biological sex of a certain UK trans woman. __Benji joins many other women whose voices have been censored by Silicon Valley tech companies. (4thWaveNow is also currently under a Twitter lockdown for similar reasons.)_ _Despite being silenced on some platforms, Benji is still very much active on the Internet. See the bottom of this article for ways to contact her and to see her work._ _ __4thWaveNow is pleased to host the below article, originally published in a slightly different form on Benji’s now-suspended

Medium account

.

_

_Benji __wrote another piece for 4thWaveNow earlier this year, about her less-than-supportive experiences in a Toronto trans-teen support

group

._

_We will continue to offer 4thWaveNow as a platform for others who find themselves in a similar situation; please let us know if you would like to be published here._ ------------------------- MY TWITTER SUSPENSION On the morning of December 11th, I was tweeting away as usual when at 11:40am, I tried to reply to a tweet and this is what I saw: I went to check my account and saw this: I had just recently reached 4000 followers so I was very upset. I checked the hashtags where I posted most, #TransTheGayAway #DiscussingDysphoria #Detrans and #QueerRapeCulture and all my tweets have been erased from Twitter. I was confused, so I checked my email to see what offence I had committed and found this: I can only assume that this happened because I referred to a trans woman, Katy Montgomerie, as a male. If she wasn’t a male, she wouldn’t have dysphoria and wouldn’t have anywhere to transition from; the whole concept of “Male to Female”. I struggle to see how this tweet is “hateful”.

CONTEXT

On December 7th, 4th Wave Now tweeted a thread about an affirmation-only parent support group

on

Facebook, specifically about a thread in that group that had developed on the topic of families with multiple trans children. Katy Montgomerie replied in the thread, claiming that families with multiple trans kids are statistically likely and nothing to be

concerned about

.

Katy then went on to say that the parents who run 4th Wave Now are anti trans; desperate not to have trans kids. The reality is, that the daughter of one of the founders of 4th Wave Now is a 22 year old, detransitioned lesbian

.

The tweet that is missing from this thread is here: This tweet is not visible because it violates Twitter’s rules, as “hateful conduct” for a similar reason to mine; referring to a Katy, a trans woman, as a “natal male”. 4thWaveNow explains their current situation here

and here

.

Here’s where I responded to Katy, after being tagged into the thread by 4thWaveNow, the missing tweet is the one I was suspended for because it was ruled

“hateful.”

The missing tweet is at the top of this article but I’ll put the text here so you don’t have to scroll up. I tweeted: > “This is nonsense. Where are you getting this? A 4000% increase in > females transitioning in the UK isn’t just because ~acceptance~. > You presume to know the female motivators for transition when you > are in fact male. What do you base this on?” Here’s one source for the 4,400% increase in female minors in the UK being referred for transition that I was referencing On Twitter, Katy says she has detrans friends and wants to help

detrans people,

but I’ve only ever seen her dismissing detransition as so rare that it’s not relevant enough to merit a change in the way transition is prescribed. She says she is a friend to detrans people but attacks one of the few websites –4thWaveNow– that will amplify our writing about our experiences. She says she supports detrans people but calls any resource we use “anti-trans”. Obviously, she has her own ideology to propagate and this is her method. I would advise detransitioned people to steer clear of her on Twitter and Medium.

APPEALS

As soon as I understood that I had been suspended, I appealed to Twitter. Predictably, they said they were looking into it but (initially) did not respond beyond that. I don’t have much faith in Twitter or their review process, so on December 15th, I filed a complaint with the Better Business Bureau . I know a few women who’ve had their Twitter accounts suspended and were able to reverse this using the BBB, so I was cautiously

optimistic.

This was my appeal to them: _I have been using twitter for many years, mostly for lesbian activism. A few days ago, my account @gnc_centric was indefinitely suspended for “hateful conduct” which is shocking because the tweet that is cited is not at all hateful. I believe that this is the result of targeted reporting by homophobes who do not like what I have to say. I appealed to Twitter but they have not explained why my tweet was hateful or why it rises to the level of an indefinite suspension. I am appealing to you because for me, Twitter is a powerful networking tool and I need it to stay in contact with journalists and other professionals, as part of my activism._ They immediately replied, saying that they were looking into it. On the morning of December 23rd, I awoke to find this response in my

email.

It’s true I’ve been put in Twitter jail a few times. If I recall correctly, I’ve had my account locked twice, for 12h and had it locked once, for 7 days (thanks @AidanCTweets ). As you can imagine, I did not wish violence on anyone or say anything cruel or tweet with malicious intent. I would love to be able to go through how I “violated Twitter rules” each time, but I can’t access my old tweets now and I didn’t keep track of it as it happened. This was my reply to this result: _I am rejecting this response because: if you were to review the history of all the times I’ve violated the twitter rules, you would see that the tweets in question were all just as innocuous as this one. I have never tweeted anything violent or hateful but because of mass reporting, I’ve had my account locked several times. I thought the BBB would see I’m not using the Twitter service in hateful or violent way and see the reality of the situation; those who oppose me will find ways to disrupt my use of Twitter, regardless of the reality that I’m not hateful or violent. Twitter is woefully unable to screen reported tweets and as a result this has happened to me

repeatedly._

This was the response I received on December 24th: I can’t believe the irony of this response. I would really, really, REALLY like to know, who experienced “targeted abuse” by me. Not to be too narcissistic, but am I not the one in this situation who is unable to “feel safe expressing diverse opinions and beliefs” on Twitter? I’ve had multiple short suspensions for expressing my beliefs, is that not “abusive behaviour” on the part of those who see me as a threat? “This includes behaviour that harasses, intimidates, or uses fear to silence someone else’s voice”. I can’t believe they sent ME this message, when I’m the one who has been continuously harassed and now, silenced on Twitter. What makes me so angry is that extremist ideologues know this is how Twitter works, and they are meticulous in their reporting. Their goal is to get the most vocal women who question gender ideology off of the platform and they know exactly how to do it.

MEDIUM SUSPENSION

On December 25th (Merry Christmas!) I checked in to see what people on Twitter were saying about GNC Centric… and they were saying my Medium account (where this article was originally posted on December 23rd) had been suspended. I suspect that this happened because I mentioned Katy Montgomerie– and the fact that they were male–in my

Medium piece.

I searched for my Medium on incognito and found this: So I checked my email and found this: Since Medium has very similar policies to Twitter, I will not bother attempting to appeal this suspension. When I was first suspended from Twitter, I planned to post much more on Medium; what I used to post as Twitter threads I would now format as short articles. Since this is obviously now impossible, I’ve made alternate plans. For the time being, I will be guest posting on other sites like here on 4thWaveNow and Graham Linehan’s blog . I’m now in the process of building my own website (finally!) where I can’t be censored and I’m very much looking forward to that! I’m also going to start posting YouTube videos more regularly now. In 4thWaveNow’s first article about their concurrent Twitter suspension, they have two quotes from Orwell’s 1984. They seem relevant as ever, so I’ll add them here

as well.

“It’s a beautiful thing, the destruction of words.” — _George

Orwell, 1984_

“But if thought corrupts language, language can also corrupt thought.” — _George Orwell, 1984_

CONTACT

Now that I’m no longer on Twitter (though I’m keeping an eye on what’s going on there ) I’m spending more time on other social media. The most direct way of contacting me now is through

email.

Social Media

Email ► GncCentric@gmail.com Tumblr ►https://gnc-centric.tumblr.com Reddit ► https://www.reddit.com/user/GNC-centric Spinster ► https://spinster.xyz/@GncCentric YouTube ► https://www.youtube.com/c/gnc-centric Posted in Uncategorized

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UPDATE: TWITTER REMAINS OBSTINATE IN DEFAMATORY LOCKOUT AFTER BETTER BUSINESS BUREAU COMPLAINT

FEATURED

Posted on December 24, 2019

by 4thwavenow

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Last week, we wrote about Twitter’s lockdown of our account for use of the scientific term “natal male.” We filed a complaint with the Northern California Better Business Bureau. That complaint was today rejected, with Twitter doubling down on its defamatory claim that we engaged in “hateful conduct,” specifically: threatening, directly attacking, and promoting violence. If we continue in this “abusive behavior,” so sayeth our Twitter Overlord-bot, we are risking our account. Once again, below is the tweet Twitter claims to be “abusive behavior,” worthy of the potential forfeiture of over 13,000 followers (including many prominent journalists, politicians, and others who wield political and public opinion influence) and five years of substantive information shared with the public. Were we surprised by Twitter’s automated response? Of course not; it’s par for the course in the current zeitgeist, where totalitarian-minded scolds running the most influential social media platform in the world believe it is their solemn duty to serve as Reeducation Nannies for the teeming masses. In the two weeks since our lockout, other thought criminals have also been Twitter-jailed or perma-banned for their “abusive behavior” (otherwise known as telling truths certain trans-activist tattletales don’t want you to know). Fellow inmates include reasonable trans people like MarsBruh

, a trans man

who goes out of his way in his interview series

to feature

diverse viewpoints, and detransitioned lesbian activist and Youtuber gnc_centric

, who as of

this writing has also filed a BBB complaint-

-to

no avail–to reverse her permanent suspension from Twitter. There have been many more before us, and there will undoubtedly be more to come who’ll be ejected from the 21st century public square and condemned to Big Tech thought-crime prisons. Nevertheless, despite our cynicism, we believe it’s important to keep telling our truth, and that now includes rejecting Twitter’s

libelous edict:

Since our previous post on the matter

,

our Twitter lockout has been written up in a very good article by

Libby Emmons

in the Canadian Post Millennial, and the journalist Jesse Singal confirmed

via

Twitter that “simply describing what being trans _is_ could lead to you losing your account.”

And

as everyone not living in a cave now knows, just a few days ago beloved author of the _Harry Potter_ series, JK Rowling, has come under international fire (including ridiculous propaganda pieces in major US outlets such as NBC

,

CNN

,

and the onetime paper-of-record

)

for tweeting her views

about

biological sex in regard to the recent UK court case against Maya

Forstater.

The 4th_WaveNow Twitter account is fairly well known, but is puny by Twitter standards. Banning JK Rowling (and others with 1M or more followers) from the public square for her past or future thought crimes might be a bridge too far–but

for how long?

Maybe Rowling and other celebrities with adequate financial wherewithal and intestinal fortitude should put their heads together and try pushing that biological (aka “natal”) sex envelope a wee bit further on Twitter. Just a thought. You know, just to see what might happen… Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged gnc_centric

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Posted on December 16, 2019

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On December 11, 2019, the 4thWaveNow Twitter account was disabled. That morning, we received an email from Twitter, claiming we had engaged in “hateful conduct” with this tweet: Presumably, the “hateful conduct” was our use of the term “natal male” in the tweet’s concluding clause. In its Rules and Policies document, Twitter says a tweet that engages in “hateful conduct” will “promote violence against, directly attack or threaten” someone on the basis of their identity. Did this tweet engage in hateful conduct? > Let’s let the founder’s daughter speak for herself, shall we? > She belongs to a population of young lesbians who once believed they > were trans—a population Katy neither advocates for (yes, we do) > nor understands from personal experience, being a natal male. The now-unavailable tweet also included a link to an article by the daughter of 4thWaveNow founder

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22-year-old lesbian and cofounder of the Pique Resilience Project —wherein she describes her former trans-identification and subsequent desistance. We appealed the false claim that the term “natal male” is “hateful” (more on that terminology shortly). Our appeal was immediately denied, and two subsequent appeals have been thus far ignored. Our only option appears to be deleting the tweet to end our total account lockout. Right now, this is what Twitter users see where the tweet originally appeared. But the plot quickly thickened. On the day our account was frozen, the journalist Jesse Singal wrote an email to the Twitter press office

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inquiring whether mention of biological sex was now against the Twitter rules. Singal expressed concern that such suspensions might affect his own work. Singal received an email response from Twitter employee “Liz” which he posted on his Twitter feed. Liz couldn’t have been more unequivocal in her _mea culpa_ on Twitter’s behalf: “This was _OUR MISTAKE_ and shouldn’t have been actioned….We work quickly to make right.” Case closed? Evidently not. It has now been 6 days since the lockout, with no responses to our appeals, no unfreezing of the account, no emails from Twitter…nuttin’. Since “working quickly” is highly unlikely to mean almost a week (especially given the use of past tense in Liz’s email), we can only surmise that the Twitter representative–clearly someone with significant authority–either lied to prominent journalist Jesse Singal (to what end, exactly?), or something else happened behind the scenes that caused “the team” to ignore Liz’s very clear admission of fault on Twitter’s behalf. Our only option continues to be deleting the tweet (and taking an undeserved “strike” against our account–something we’ve not had in five years of tweets), but given Twitter’s _self-admitted _“mistake that should never have been actioned”—why should we

delete it?

Since it’s unlikely Twitter suspended the 4thWaveNow Twitter account for anything other than referring to birth sex, let’s look a little closer at the term “natal male” and whether (and how) it should be interpreted as “hateful conduct.” This is of particular interest, since the very next morning after our account was frozen, another report against us turned up in our email—this time for using the term “natal boys.” But this time, Twitter rightly concluded the tweet broke no rules. Putting aside the obvious inconsistency in Twitter’s “hateful conduct” policy, “natal male” is not, in fact, “misgendering,” a Twitter policy we are well aware of: How does using the term “natal” in reference to birth sex “dehumanize, degrade or reinforce negative or harmful stereotypes”? The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM), version 5 (DSM-5) uses the term at least six times in its latest rendition—_including_ in its definition of “transgender:” The DSM-5 defines “gender assignment” thusly: And it’s not just the DSM-5: Natal is a term used by many trans-supportive sources, websites

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and scientific studies

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It’s a standard term often used as a synonym for “assigned sex at birth” or AMAB/AFAB.

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Be that as it may, whoever(s) reported our tweet clearly thought the term “natal male” was offensive. Fair enough: They could have (instead of tattling to the Twitter Thought Police) engaged an argument here, and there are at least two we’ve seen routinely before: (a) a trans woman has always been female, and/or (b) just because someone was “assigned” male at birth doesn’t mean they don’t understand the experience of lesbians born female . Mature adults who approach matters in good faith engage in discussion, usually hoping their conversation partner can, at the very least, see their point of view (if not agree with it). But that’s not what people who tattle to Big Tech censors do. Instead—like the authoritarians they are—they try to shut down those who don’t conform 100% to their point of view. Mass reporting, gaming the Twitter terms of service, playing “gotcha” on Twitter—what, exactly, do the trans-activist scolds think they have achieved? When, in fact, has the suppression of dialogue resulted in changing anyone’s mind? If “natal male” is a term of offense, can it be long before the term “transgender” itself is verboten? Because “trans” or “transgender” explicitly refers to transitioning _from_ one state _to_ another state. Why allow the term at all, since it points to the inconvenient truth that a person was at one time something different? Perhaps that is the end game: Make any and all terminology that would differentiate a trans person from a “cis” person unsayable (oddly, “cis” is not on the Twitter Thought Police list of bannable Crime-Words, given that many of us take offense at it), and you’ve achieved at least one Orwellian goal: > “It’s a beautiful thing, the destruction of words.”—_George

> Orwell, 1984_

The key point here is of greater import than one Twitter account (of many) being muzzled by this absurd but ominous censorship. The real issue is the chilling of _everyone_‘s discourse, the right to be exposed to many varied opinions on (like it or not) the social media platform most used by those with power to influence policy and public

opinion.

To stay afloat on the platform, we are forced to write and converse with each other in coded, sanitized language; to paraphrase and obfuscate meanings. Orwell’s Big Brother couldn’t have thought of a better medium to control the masses. When you silence someone by misusing the (already censorious) policies of one of the most powerful social-media companies in the world, you’ve tainted thought itself. > “But if thought corrupts language, language can also corrupt > thought.” — _George Orwell, 1984_ Is it any wonder so many people now question the motives and tactics behind (what many of us originally thought was) the Next Civil Rights movement–a movement we started off supporting? ------------------------- Stay tuned for updates. Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged Jesse Singal

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A MODEST PROPOSAL

Posted on November 30, 2019

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FOR PREVENTING THE BIOLOGICAL SEX OF CHILDREN IN AMERICAN HOUSEHOLDS, FROM BEING A BURTHEN ON THEIR EXPLORATION OF GENDER IDENTITY, AND THEREBY BENEFITTING THE PUBLICK. _BY AUBEE DJINN, MD _ _In the 1720’s, Ireland was suffering under a disastrous famine. Jonathan Swift, Anglo-Irish author, was horrified at how British politics unfairly exacerbated the suffering of the Irish. Having made several unsuccessful appeals to Parliament to enact policies to relieve the famine, he turned to writing. “A Modest Proposal” called attention to a social ill by proposing an outrageous solution: eating Irish children._ _Aubee Djinn (a pseudonym) is an American OB-GYN amazed at how social trends are obscuring scientific fact. With a nod to Jonathan Swift’s 1729 essay, this contemporary social ill is met with an equally outrageous Modest Proposal._ ------------------------- It is a melancholy object to those, who walk through our great hospitals, or travel in their maternity wards, when they see the hallways, the corridors, and the newborn nurseries crowded with infants whose differentiated genitalia are at odds with their undifferentiated gender identity. These infants instead of being allowed to naturally discover their gender identity as they mature, are forced to endure the suggestions of their parts and pieces, and of the external socializations that follow. It is common knowledge that gender identity is separate from biological sex, yet the correlation of anatomy and identity is unfortunately strong enough to imply effect to the unenlightened mind. Infants attached to penises usually become men, and those with vaginae usually become women. However, any good scientist knows that correlation does not equal causation. If a parent is likewise woke, they will know that genitalia are not predictive of gender. In the absence of social constructs and family influence, penis-babies would be just as likely to discover they are girls as boys, and vagina-babies can likewise grow up to be men or women. However, when parents are not enlightened, they will assume that sex predicts gender identity, and risk irreversible damage to their

offspring.

Witness

the homunculus with neither penis nor vagina, and yet both simultaneously, that almost universally develops one or the other. As with embryology, gender identity is undifferentiated at creation, and takes form later in life. It is inconvenient that despite their variety of shapes and dimensions, genitalia lend themselves to neat dichotomous categories that the uninformed parent will naïvely extrapolate to the gender of their child. It is even more inconvenient that gravid women are told of these fetal bits during a sonographic exam at mid-gestation, and use the information to inform absurd celebrations of the implied gender of their fetus. Cupcakes, balloons, confetti, even an empty ale-can filled with colored powder and placed on a fence post for a musket ball … all of these rituals are celebrating the revelation of a child’s gender identity, when only its genitalia are known. Therein lies the rub. Society is burdened by the downstream effects of such confusion. Parents impose social constructs upon their offspring based upon their genitalia, and allow stereotypes and misunderstandings to hamper their children’s natural development. Children see and even touch their genitalia and will naturally wonder what their genitalia means. They struggle to understand themselves in the context of this biology and the associated social construct. This explains the phlegmatic and bilious humour of today’s youth. It contributes to their melancholy, lethargy, and isolation, and is evidenced by high rates of substance abuse and, indeed, of suicide. Our impaired youth are a scourge on society and threaten our future as a productive member of the global community. As a good and just society (which we have never been and yet strive to be), we should endeavor to abolish the horrific consequences of biological sex biasing the pure development of gender identity But my intention is very far from being confined to provide only for the children of unenlightened parents: it is of a much greater extent, and shall take in the whole number of infants born in our country. Since all children are born with undiscovered gender identity, then they should be permitted to develop without the influence of biologic sex. Other members of society are encouraged to change their appearance to match their gender identity, so I know no reason why infants should not be accorded the same basic human right. Since their gender identity is undetermined, so then should be their

apparent biology.

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MY

MODEST PROPOSAL IS THAT ALL INFANTS BE UNBURDENED OF THE EXTERNAL ORNAMENTS OF THEIR BIOLOGIC SEX_, so that their gender identity may develop without the influence of parental expectations or societal norms. The first step is the outlawing of ultrasound to visualize the fetal bits, far less to hazard a guess at the gender (this has worked well in China and India). In the delivery room, this will necessitate the immediate but temporary separation of mother and child so that the mother remains unaware of whether she has birthed a penis-baby or a vagina-baby. Fortunately, the existing medicalization of childbirth should make this separation basically unnoticeable to the modern parturient. For penis-babies, all the genitalia are external, and will be removed by phallectomy, scrotectomy, and orchiectomy. Urination will be by a urethral meatus remaining on the perineum. Some may argue against the expense of two million such operations _per annum_, but my calculations confirm that these costs will be offset by savings from the absence of circumcisions and also by the elimination of urinals from all elementary school restrooms. For vagina-babies, the vaginal orifice may be narrowed by creating a smooth covering of skin, created by cutting and appositioning the labia minora and labia majora, and by clitorectomy. Sadly, American surgeons are not properly trained to perform such a complicated surgery, especially on an hours-old newborn. Fortunately, there are many expert surgeons in Africa and the Middle East, where these procedures are frequently performed. In the West, these surgeries are known as Class 3 genital mutilations and they are currently banned for their cruelty. Foreign surgeons would be glad for the opportunity to come to the West and rebrand their skills as gender-identity-neutralization surgeries, simultaneously reeducating our medical community and earning a handsome living. Newborn ovaries and corpus uteri may be left _in situ_ through childhood because in their quiescence they are irrelevant and invisible both to the individual and to society and would not influence exploration of gender identity, and also because they will be needed for the continuation of the species. Of course, by the age of 10 or 11, all children will need to decide on a gender identity, start on estrogen or testosterone, and embark on a gender-creation surgery, including choice of mastectomy or augmentation, phalloplasty, hysterectomy, or neovagina creation. After a genderless childhood, the choice of a gendered adolescence and adulthood will be a cause for celebration, in line with other coming of age ceremonies like bar/bat-mitzvahs or quinceañeras. In the event a child chooses no gender at all, they would have a smorgasbord of available medical options ranging from a clean perineum to, perhaps, both a penis and a

vagina.

Unfortunately, some of these surgeries (especially the phalloplasty) do not currently yield the best results, neither cosmetic nor functional. In the event that we have not discovered how to manufacture sperm out of whole cloth by then, we will need to remember to keep our sperm vaults properly powered and staffed, lest the electricity fail and our species go extinct. It is my humble hope that by the time today’s newborns reach the age of decision, our scientific and surgical talents will be the equal of our enlightened minds. Even better, by then we will have perfected the uterus transplant and will enjoy a large supply of unwanted natal uteri to transplant into transwomen who desire to breed. Of course, this also requires that the fetus be exposed to anti-rejection medication and be delivered by cesarean section, and that the parturient eventually have the uterus removed once breeding is complete, but these are small sacrifices compared to the benefits of experiencing the full potential of one’s chosen gender identity.

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those readers who remain unconvinced, I offer some additional benefits for their consideration. Firstly, our society is plagued by masculine toxicity, presumably mediated by testosterone. Since all penis-babies will be _castrati_, the only testosterone in our society will be distributed by pharmacies. Therefore, we will have the opportunity to titrate the dosage of testosterone to prevent toxic masculinity. No more rape-culture. No more me-too. No more manspreading on the subway. Secondly, we will no longer be confused by pronouns. Children in their first decade will be ungendered and will all be referred to as they/them/theirs. By the end of adolescence, every individual will have chosen their gender, and will have had bespoke chemical and surgical treatments so that their external appearances exactly match their gender identities. Third parties will not have to wonder whether the biological sex matches gender-identity, and won’t have to ask what pronouns to use. Gender identity is laid bare for all to

see!

Thirdly, we will no longer be plagued by sexism. Because all women will have chosen to be women with full knowledge of what it means to fully be a woman, they should not resent any lack of opportunity, pay disparity, or what not. Lastly, this modest proposal is only a beginning. Once we successfully sever biology from gender, we will have made the first big step towards a wondrous post-biological human existence where anybody can be anyone, and we are all equal in the eyes of our Creator and in the eyes of each other. There will be no reason to argue, struggle, and fight for our natural rights and deserved equalities … what the Creator has not provided, science will. A Brave New World

awaits us!

I Profess in the sincerity of my Heart that I have not the least personal Interest in endeavouring to promote this necessary Work having no other Motive than the _publick Good of my Country, providing for Infants, and curing gender dysphoria_. I have no Children who might be directly affected by this proposal; the youngest being fifteen Years old, and my Wife past Child-bearing. “A Modest Proposal,” by Jonathan Swift Posted in Uncategorized

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WHAT YOU CAN DO FOR YOUR KID: SERIES INTRO Posted on October 21, 2019

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_Carey Callahan is a family therapist, writer, and organizer advocating for responsible healthcare for gender dysphoria. You can find her writing at medium.com/mariacatt42 (where this piece was first published), and she tweets at @catt_bear ._ _This piece is an intro to a series Carey will be writing in the

coming weeks._

------------------------- One of the sadder parts of being detransitioned and public about it is that the parents find you. They’ve been told by a doctor or a social worker that the only route forward that protects against suicidality is to affirm their kid’s trans identity. That they need to be open to the possibility their kid may need their pubertal process disrupted, may need to begin what could within a couple of years turn into a life time commitment to cross sex hormones, and could need surgeries to socially function. They’ve been told asking questions about the impact of their kid’s peer group, internet use, drug use, co-morbid diagnoses, internalization of sexism, or family dynamics is transphobia. They’ve been told, no matter what their authentic emotions are, to celebrate their child’s transitio

n.

I’m in the novel position of being both a detransitioned lady and a family therapist. I am not, and probably never will be, your family therapist. At this point in time I won’t work with families with a gender dysphoric young person because I’m scared of the risk to my license. In the past few months activists have filed complaints to the licensing boards of two therapists I’m connected with, both of whom have been public in their defense of the research into Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria. To trans activists, promoting and enforcing “affirmative care” as the sole available clinical response to youth gender dysphoria (“GD” for the rest of this essay) is a battle so righteous that the ends justify the means. Those means include punishing mental health professionals by threatening their livelihoods, calling DHS on non-compliant parents

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slandering youth GD researchers whose research documents majority

youth desistance

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harassing researchers whose research suggests the existence of a new cohort of youth GD diagnoses that may have vastly different outcomes than previous cohorts , or slandering and harassing even the reporters who acknowledge these events are happening

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There is a group of activists within the trans community who truly believe that doubts about a child’s ability to understand and consent to the long term consequences of medical interventions whose long term consequences are a matter of intense controversy among adult

patients

can only be motivated by transphobia. Pediatric transition has always been a troublesome topic for me. My efforts to advocate for resources and training for detransition mental healthcare have consistently put me in positions where I have to pick a side about pediatric transition. My choices have been: critique pediatric transition, be labeled a transphobe and be cut off from opportunities within the trans healthcare community to build an infrastructure for supporting detransitioners OR focus only on detransition care, and endorse pediatric transition.

Carey Callahan

At the end of the day, if I had a kid, they’d have to wait till they were 18 to get themselves on hormones and pursue surgeries, so I don’t feel right recommending parents do anything different. It’s not that I don’t believe I could have a kid who, in order to have a good life, truly did need to move through life in a gender role I didn’t expect. I know trans adults like that, and their medical transitions reduced their GD to such a level that they could function well, with loving partners and meaningful work. But my doubts about the ethics of pediatric transition are not based on assuming a trans kid’s identity isn’t going to be stable and long-lasting. (Although it’s worth remembering in 2009 hardly anyone had heard the word “nonbinary,” so I don’t think we can even can speculate about the gender schemas that will be popular in 2029.) My insistence that any kid I raise be a legal adult before making these choices is based on knowing trans adults who have been surprised by the challenges of their long term healthcare. I am not going to create a situation where my kid is 25 and gets to blame their mom for pain when they orgasm

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fusion of their uterus and cervix

, reduced

mitochondrial function , or straight up never having an orgasm

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No way am I running the risk of allowing my kid to halt their puberty with Lupron shots and create a future spending big bucks at the dentist, rheumatologist, and endocrinologist

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I didn’t have steady health insurance till my mid-thirties, so I don’t have faith that if my kid had chronic symptoms like the people in the Lupron Survivors Facebook group do that they’d be able to access specialists without sliding into inescapable medical debt. Once I told a prominent psychiatrist and affirmative care researcher that there’s no way I would let a teen take testosterone because there’s a high likelihood they’d end up needing a hysterectomy in their twenties. After a hysterectomy you are dependent on HRT for your lifetime and need to prioritize having health insurance both for the HRT and the complications following the hysterectomy. It’s normal for Americans, especially in their twenties and thirties, to have long stretches of time where they can’t afford to see a doctor. The psychiatrist, appearing deeply perplexed, replied (this is a paraphrase), “But you can’t make decisions about your identity based on fears you won’t be able to access healthcare.” The trans community is pretty clear you don’t need to take testosterone to identify as a trans man.

Thus,

testosterone isn’t actually a choice about your identity, it’s a choice about body modification, and yes you can absolutely choose to avoid body modifications that create risks to your health you fear you may not be able to manage. But if a Harvard educated psychiatrist can’t keep that distinction clear, can a teenager? Do the teenagers in your life know about co-pays, or how to get a referral to a specialist, or what COBRA is? I’ve had a fair amount of the letters of the LGBT alphabet soup confidently explained to me by teenagers, but I’ve never met a teen who knew how to apply for Medicaid

benefits.

All this to say, if you are suspicious of the increased prevalence of

youth GD referrals

and the righteousness of activists who believe minors know what they’re getting into when they medically transition, I’m there with you. But if parenting teens were just about creating sane rules and explaining how the world works, teen boys could be trusted to shower regularly, teen girls could be trusted to use school bathrooms without putting fights on Snapchat, and Smirnoff Ice would have a significantly smaller market share. The reality is that in

many

states

on your teen’s 18th birthday they can walk into a Planned Parenthood and have the first of the two appointments it will take for them to get HRT. You have the power (although only if you and your coparent are on the same pag e) to keep your kid from initiating medical transition until that day. That day will roll around quicker than you think. What this means is that cultivating a positive relationship in which you have credibility and influence with that person you made is paramount. From my work as a family therapist I can tell you being able to do that, when that person is in their teens and twenties, is a spiritual triumph. Young people’s psyches are built for separation, independence, and risk taking. But you, passionately loving parent, with the privilege of both your life experience, and fully formed pre-frontal cortex (boy howdy I’m hoping you can fully access all that emotion regulation) are gonna love that kid into some wise

choices.

How do you do this?

The short answer is: * An unconditionally loving relationship demonstrated by you giving them feedback that is intentionally overwhelmingly positive * and lots of offering them your reflective listening skills; * bounded by clear and explicit, age appropriate boundaries * which are backed up by logical and consistent consequences. Doesn’t strike you as that short of an answer, does it? But in actuality that answer above is the recipe for every successful relationship- kids, spouses, friends, coworkers. Having children hit puberty is a fantastic way to find out all your weird personal myths about how relationships should go and how exactly they do not work. Here’s the basics of any human relationship: People love to be liked. People love to be understood and most people love to talk about themselves. People are most relaxed when rules, roles, and boundaries are clear, and people love to be relaxed. People absolutely don’t love logical consequences for their behavior. But the least painful way to learn about the process of considering logical consequences is from navigating logical and consistent consequences doled out by your

parents.

Over the next two months I’ll dive into those 4 components of building a positive relationship with your kid, and how your kid’s gender dysphoria and trans identification interact with these components. I am NOT saying you can detrans your kid. I am absolutely saying that if you build a positive relationship with your kid, you can be both a valuable sounding board and a source of information for them. I know from my own experience the sources of information and the sounding boards (i.e. gender therapists and online community) available to gender dysphoric people who are discerning their medical choices tend to put forth a very rosy view of medical transition. If you’re a parent, and you’re feeling desperate, the very best thing you can do before this series gets going is to get SERIOUS about your self-care. Having a child begin a clearly inappropriate medical transition is a specific level of hell, and I would never want to minimize how bad that situation sucks for parents. But in the midst of that hell you need to bring your parenting A game. You have to take up running, yoga, meditation, prayer, Xanax- whatever can chill out your emotional lizard brain so that you can access your logical, strategic, patient pre-frontal cortex. If you’re not giving an hour each day to chilling yourself out, you won’t be able to stay non-reactive when that baby you nursed tells you they’ve got a surgery date. An hour of self-care is the minimum, and I don’t want to get any emails from you if you wrote them before 2 hours. Check back in about a week for Part 1, the deep dive into positive feedback for your endlessly confusing child. Posted in Uncategorized

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FINDING MIDDLE GROUND: THE IMPORTANCE OF EMPATHY Posted on October 5, 2019

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BY JULIETTE VAN STEENSEL _Juliette van Steensel is a 19-year-old woman who identified as transgender for a brief period in her earlier teenage years. She wrote this piece particularly for parents who may be wondering how to best support and respond to their trans-identifying daughters, based on her positive experiences with her own parents during that time in her life. Juliette is originally from the Netherlands and now lives in the UK, where she is studying for a degree in linguistics. She is available to interact in the comment section of this post, and can also be reached on Twitter @jvsteensel._ ------------------------- Cases of young teenagers claiming to be transgender out of the blue seem to be on the rise. Though there are plenty of opinions and discussions on this to be found online, some voices are hard to hear: those of parents reluctant to give in to their children’s wishes to transition, and those of people who once identified with the transgender community and no longer do. I myself identified as transgender for a short time in my teens, but grew out of it. As I was looking for people with similar experiences, I came across 4thWaveNow. I recognise myself in many of the stories shared here, and I feel very sympathetic towards the parents sharing their struggles. I hope that sharing my experience with transgenderism and the ways in which my parents supported me in this will provide some insight to other people

going through this.

When I was 16, I came out to my parents as genderqueer. This was following a coming-out as gay, which followed a coming-out as bisexual. At the time, I viewed this as a logical progression: I was breaking out of the heteronormative, cis-centric mold imposed on me by society. As a final step to complete this progression, I decided I would start hormone treatment when I turned 18, and start university ‘as a man’ — or at least, not as a gender-conforming woman. It never got that far, though: some six months later, I had started to grow out my hair, wear dresses and skirts again and didn’t think twice about ticking the ‘female’ box on my university application forms. Now, I have many other things to concern myself with outside of gender: I have recently finished an internship in linguistics in Singapore, and I look forward to earning my bachelor’s degree in linguistics at Cambridge University over the next three years. Rather than spending my free time obsessing over gender, I spend it on art, playing the violin, and going out with my friends. Sometimes, though, I think back to when I identified as transgender. Mainly, I think about how it affected my parents, and my relationship with them. My parents never rejected me outright. However, when talking about this period later, I learnt how sceptical and worried they were. Now, I admire that they were able to keep most of this to themselves and trust me to figure myself out. Thankfully, I did manage to do just that, and I am now very glad I never made any permanent changes to my body. Looking back now, the reasons for my so-called gender dysphoria and wish to transition, followed by acceptance of my biological gender only about half a year later are painfully clear. They have little to do with gender beneath the surface. As most teenagers do at some point or other, I started questioning my sexuality in high school. I was around 15 years old at this time and often turned towards the internet to share my thoughts and find like-minded people. The internet offers a wealth of stories and experiences from others on this topic and I spent a lot of time reading through these. In particular, I spent a lot of time on a blogging platform called Tumblr. On Tumblr, the LGBT community is particularly active. People share their personal experiences, as well as thoughts and opinions on sexuality as it relates to society, culture and politics. At the time I was discovering this content, I was young, impressionable and curious. Discussions about inequality, sexism and homophobia were a cause for me to be passionate about. Of course, in many places around the world people of non-traditional expression and sexual orientation aren’t considered equal, which ought to be discussed. However, rather than encouraging change and communication, many of the activist blogs I frequented on Tumblr encouraged a victim role. It was not unusual to see posts demonising people who identified as heterosexual or cisgender. In these communities on Tumblr, respect was earned not by showing strength, but rather by demonstrating the highest degree of victimhood. This means that the person with the most complex, unique and marginalised identity has the most authority — the unspoken rule was that someone who has not had the ‘lived experience’ could never understand, and could never have a useful word to say about an issue. Looking up to others in this community, I felt very tempted to immerse myself in these alternative identities. Besides, not identifying as heterosexual, I already felt like I fit in. It was a small effort to

delve deeper.

As a teen, I struggled with identity and often found it hard to express myself. On Tumblr, the biggest discussions around self-expression usually centred around gender. This is how I became interested in dressing androgynously and rejecting traditional femininity. There were countless blogs of young people, mostly biological females, with boyish haircuts, wearing masculine clothes and asking to be addressed with gender neutral or masculine pronouns. Many spoke at length about their dislike of stereotypical femininity, their perception of heterosexual relationship and their discomfort with their female bodies. This struck a chord with me. As a young girl, at many points in my life, stereotypes and expectations felt forced upon me because of my being female: my family often asked me if I had a boyfriend yet, when I would finally grow out my hair beyond my shoulders, how many kids I wanted. These pressures made me insecure, partly because I didn’t want to fulfill some of these expectations, and partly because I was worried I wouldn’t be able to. I saw the experiences of non-binary, genderqueer and transgender-identified people on Tumblr as an escape from these pressures of traditional

femininity.

However, none of this explains why I considered something so drastic as hormone treatment to change my feminine features. A much-used term on these gender-related blogs on Tumblr was _gender dysphoria. _Many people on the blogs I frequented described feeling trapped in their body and uncomfortable in their skin; they described being unhappy with their breasts and their hips, and feeling unattractive. On these blogs, these feelings were considered symptoms of gender dysphoria, and a sure sign that transitioning to the opposite sex with the help of hormone treatment and invasive surgery was the right course of action. At no point were negative side effects of these procedures discussed, nor was the possibility considered that these feelings might not be related to gender in the first place. At this age, there was much I disliked about my body, and combined with my need to reject traditional femininity, it seemed logical that gender dysphoria was the explanation for these feelings. I was convinced: I now had a way to experiment with self-expression and reject stereotypical femininity with masculine haircuts and clothing, and the term gender dysphoria to explain my bodily insecurities. After this, it wasn’t difficult for me to convince myself that transitioning was the key to happiness and

security.

For

me, the road to wanting to transition was a slow one. Initially, I simply enjoyed experimenting with more androgynous fashion and hairstyles. But over time, gender became an obsession. Relevant to my experience is the rest of my life at this time. My family had recently moved from the Netherlands to Scotland, where I started a new high school. At 15 years old, this was a very big shift for me and I struggled to make friends during my first year at school. On top of this, about a year after moving, my parents divorced. Perhaps as a cry for attention, an act of rebellion, or simply as a distraction, I became obsessed with all things gender identity. Everything around me reminded me of the biological and societal differences between the sexes. I became obsessed with hormone treatment and surgery, with disguising the feminine parts of my body and with ways to disassociate myself from femininity in all manners of expression. I was convinced that when I finally transitioned, and had the acceptance of my friends and family, I would be happy. But every step I took — cutting my hair, wearing men’s clothes, adopting ‘masculine’ mannerisms — only made my insecurities worse. I felt like I didn’t fit in, I felt unattractive, and I felt like I would never be happy being in the body I was in, even more so than before I began presenting as male. I felt entirely dependent on outside validation that I came across as masculine —validation I didn’t often receive. For a while, I didn’t talk to my family about these feelings. But at some point, I felt so unhappy that I decided to talk to my mum about my wish to transition. I didn’t have to bring it up, but one day when I was in a particularly gloomy mood, my mum asked me directly if I wanted to be a boy. She’d noticed that I’d started wearing masculine clothes, cut my hair shorter and shorter, and had put the puzzle pieces together. That question allowed me to share the thoughts and feelings I had about gender and my body. During this conversation, my mum mostly allowed me to talk without interrupting, until I brought up the topic of transitioning. I don’t believe I ever fully intended to transition; when I talked to my mum about hormone treatment, I had already decided I would start it only after finishing high school, so I would be able to start my ‘new life’ at university. I could tell my mum was hesitant: she expressed that she wasn’t convinced that hormone treatment was the right course, and she was very happy to hear that I wanted to wait a couple of years before starting treatment. Still, though, my mum was very understanding, and clearly wanted to fix my unhappiness as best she could. That reaction helped me step outside of my own head a little: it helped me realise the gravity of the decision I wanted to make. However, I was less receptive to my mum’s admission that it would be difficult for her to think of me as anything other than a daughter. I understand this now, and I am sure many parents here feel the same. At the time, though, this wasn’t something I wanted to hear: it made me feel pressured to fit an image my mum had of me. We reached a compromise, though: my mum agreed to contact a gender therapist for me. We had one visit with this therapist — who didn’t push treatment, but simply wanted to look further into ways of self-expression without the constraint of labels — but when trying to book a follow-up appointment, we never heard back. My mum only received a response to her emails a few months later because of an issue with the therapist’s e-mail, and by this time I was no longer interested in transition. I wonder from time to time if I would have gone through with transition had I had more appointments with this gender therapist. It’s a scary thought, since I no longer have any desire to be male. However, I do feel like the appointment was helpful. It made me feel valid, but at the same time, it made the situation feel very real all of a sudden. It helped me to see how big of a change transitioning would be, and perhaps this was ultimately the first push for me to grow out of this phase. Altogether, I identified as genderqueer and later as transgender for only about six months. I don’t remember exactly what led me to grow out of these feelings of gender dysphoria, but I think the most vital step was settling in at school. Making more friends and finding other ways to express myself, as well as feeling more at ease socially helped build my confidence. Around this time, I also started exercising, and this was a great way to relieve stress and learn to feel more at home in my body. By the time my fifth year of high school rolled around, I was too busy with friends, crushes and university applications to think much about gender. Throughout all of this, my relationship with my parents was vital. My parents never rejected me — they expressed at times they didn’t agree with my self-diagnosis, but at no point did they make my insecurities feel invalid. My dad in particular was open to however I chose to express myself, and encouraged me to experiment. He complimented me on both my feminine and masculine clothes. He even took me to a male barber to get a haircut. I didn’t experience this affirmation as encouragement to transition; rather, it boosted my confidence and showed me my relationship with my dad wasn’t dependent on how I expressed myself. Both my parents made it clear that things like the way I dressed, the way I labeled myself, or who I loved would never make them reject me. Knowing I had their support and trust made it easier for me to return that trust, and kept me from feeling a need to rebel. Now, I know how difficult the whole ordeal was for them, and I feel some guilt for worrying them as much as I did. The topic of gender doesn’t come up a lot in conversation: I feel too embarrassed to bring it up, even though I know my parents don’t think any less of me for it — though my family doesn’t shy back from making fun of my haircuts. At the time though, they took me seriously, for which I am very grateful. It allowed me to grow out of this phase of my life without need for intervention and before taking any drastic measures. My view on these gender-related issues has changed gradually over the past few years. I see this sudden gender dysphoria that some teenagers express as symptomatic of other problems, rather than as a problem on its own. I interpreted my insecurity as gender dysphoria and my dislike of stereotypical femininity as a wish to be male. Frustrated with my situation — feeling alone at a new school, feeling insecure about my body, having to deal with my parents’ divorce — gender became an obsession. It functioned as an escape and as a problem to fix. I convinced myself that everything in my life would improve if I transitioned. I believe this might be the case for other young people claiming to experience gender dysphoria: obsession with gender serves as a way to avoid dealing with more complex, underlying issues with confidence, identity and security. These need to be dealt with first, before transition can even be considered. I also believe that the sudden increase in cases of gender-confused teens can be explained in part by the internet. I was introduced to these concepts of gender identity through the internet. It is also very easy to find people online that will affirm your feelings and encourage you to transition, even though these people are not nearly familiar enough with your real life to make these judgements. Validation is easily found online, which is why some teens might withdraw there to avoid confrontation instead of talking to family and friends in real life. Despite my scepticism towards claims of gender dysphoria from teenagers, I would still urge parents of teens going through this to act with empathy before anything else. I don’t believe many teens would act this way on purpose, or to be manipulative: for me, it wasn’t in any way enjoyable to constantly deal with these obsessive thoughts and insecurities. For that reason, I would encourage parents not to view this as an act of rebellion from your child, but rather as a cry for help. What was by far the most helpful for me was knowing that my parents’ love for me was not lessened by how I chose to express myself, and that all their scepticism came from a place of concern. I also believe it is important not to reject your child outright, and to trust them to figure things out in their own time. Allow them to experiment with their fashion and hairstyle, and allow them to try out a different way to express their identity. Many children and young teens expressing gender dysphoria at some point in life later find they are gay, or that they simply feel more comfortable dressing like the opposite sex. If this turns out to be the case for your child, it is important that you support them — your acceptance will likely mean a lot to your child. Remember that for your child to share these thoughts and insecurities about their identity and body in the first place shows they trust you and are willing to talk, and this trust is something to be treasured. 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DESISTANCE IS NOT A DIRTY WORD Posted on September 12, 2019

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In recent months, there has been a marked increase in the number of both trans-identified and detransitoned people speaking out on social media and YouTube about the harms they say they experienced from a variety of medical-transition procedures. It should be obvious that the testimonies of these regretters don’t somehow cancel out the positive transition experiences others report. In fact, many regretters who speak out do so not to deny others the right to access medical transition, but to provide information about possible unwanted side effects and/or sequelae of surgical and/or hormonal

interventions.

Yet the typical response from trans activists can be summarized

succinctly:

> Regret and detransition are vanishingly rare. You’re an outlier, > so don’t fearmonger. As many detransitioners have pointed out, no one actually knows just how many regretters (some of whom continue to identify as transgender) and detransitioners there are. Regretters are not systematically tracked, and the few studies that have looked at regret rates typically report that many subjects have been lost to followup. Most importantly, many regretters never return to their gender clinics once they’ve detransitioned (or discontinued further medical intervention). As Carey Callahan remarked in her recent interview with

a detransitioner

who _did_ return to talk to her former gender doctor, > She’s exceptional for doing so- in my circle only a handful of > detransitioners have gone back to inform their doctors about their

> detransition.

But regardless of how rare regret or detransition may ultimately be, why wouldn’t adult trans people and their supporters want others to learn everything possible about both the positive and negative impacts of medical transition–_particularly when it comes to young people_? Further, if a young person resolves their dysphoria and thus avoids the rigors of medical transition, how is that not a good outcome? These questions (which we have posed many times in the past) inspired this recent tweet thread

from the

4thWaveNow Twitter account. ------------------------- You can also read this thread here

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FORMER PHALLOPLASTY PATIENT OF DR. CURTIS CRANE SPEAKS OUT Posted on August 29, 2019

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In response to our most recent article about Dr. Curtis Crane

,

we have been contacted by one of Crane’s former patients, who asked us to share this video. Be aware that the video contains graphic images and video footage pertaining to the phalloplasty surgery and complications experienced

by this person.

We thank this former patient for reaching out to us, and for having the courage to speak out. Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged Curtis Crane , phalloplasty complications

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CATCHING UP WITH RENOWNED PHALLOPLASTY SURGEON, DR. CURTIS CRANE Posted on August 26, 2019

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_Third in a series. Part 1 is here

.

Part 2 is here

.

_

_4thWaveNow contributor Worriedmom has practiced civil litigation for many years in federal and state courts._ ------------------------- Since our last coverage of medical malpractice litigation against renowned phalloplasty surgeon Curtis Crane, M.D., we’ve received frequent inquiries about the current status of the lawsuits and his practice. Research has revealed some interesting facts and circumstances about Dr. Crane. First, as of this writing, there no longer appear to be any open civil cases against Dr. Crane in the state of California. All eight of the malpractice cases that had previously been pending in the San Francisco Superior Court have now been “dismissed with prejudice” (read on to understand the meaning of “with prejudice” in the settlement context, since this doesn’t mean what some folks may assume it does).

Specifically:

Doe v. Crane, CGC-16-550630 was dismissed April 5, 2017. Carter v. Crane, CGC-16-554254 was dismissed December 10, 2018. Raynor v. Crane, CGC-17-556713 was dismissed November 8, 2018. Carson v. Crane, CGC-17-556743 was dismissed October 10, 2018. Doe v. Crane, CGC-17-557327 was dismissed November 8, 2018. Davis v. Crane, CGC-17-557363 was dismissed December 10, 2018. Shepherd v. Crane, CGC-17-559294, dismissed October 3, 2018. Doe v. Crane, CGC-17-560690 was dismissed March 15, 2019. A ninth malpractice case, Hansen v. Crane (CGC-18-571442), brought in November of last year

,

was also dismissed on January 14, 2019. As with the other actions listed above, this lawsuit also alleged malpractice in connection with

genital surgery:

Interestingly,

the plaintiff in that case alleged that at the time he consulted Dr. Crane, Dr. Crane told him that “none of his patients had ever had a serious complication from phalloplasty, that it was a safe procedure, and that only 5% of his patients have needed surgical repairs.” As of the writing of this article, however, all of the malpractice litigation filed against Dr. Crane in San Francisco has now been dismissed. What does this mean? It’s impossible to know. What we do know is that none of these dismissals appear to have been the result of a jury or other type of fact-finding proceeding that evaluated Dr. Crane’s conduct and made any findings about negligence or malpractice. In other words, it does not appear that an independent arbiter has reviewed the facts of these cases and ruled on whether the care provided either complied, or did not comply, with established “standards of care.” This is not surprising, since over 90% of all medical malpractice cases

never go to trial.

One might reasonably conclude, then, that all of these actions have been settled out of court. For what amount of damages? We can’t know. It could be zero, it could be $10 million. The amount paid in settlement of such a claim is confidential virtually 100% of the time

.

The medical liability insurance carrier is, in most cases these days, the party that decides whether or not to settle a case, and this is a “business decision” on the carrier’s part. From interrogatory answers filed in the Raynor case, cited above, we do know something about Dr. Crane’s professional liability and medical malpractice coverage in 2016, the date the malpractice alleged in that case was claimed to have occurred (see Motion for Relief from Waiver of Discovery Objections dated April 16, 2018, Declaration of Corban J. Porter and Exhibit D thereto):

Private

settlement agreements also typically include “NDA” (or non-disclosure agreement) provisions, in which the parties agree to keep all terms of the settlement confidential, and further agree to the payment of damages in the event of a breach. These NDA provisions have, of course, come under public scrutiny as part of the “MeToo” movement and the Stormy Daniels affairs. Some commentators argue that keeping medical malpractice settlement amounts confidential hurts

the public:

> SECRET NONDISCLOSURE AGREEMENTS ALSO AFFECT PATIENT SAFETY BY > ALLOWING BAD DOCTORS AND OTHER DANGEROUS MEDICAL PROVIDERS TO > CONTINUE TO HARM PATIENTS BECAUSE THEIR INCOMPETENCY IS HIDDEN FROM > THEIR PRESENT AND FUTURE PATIENTS AND EMPLOYERS. Finally, these litigations were also dismissed “with prejudice,” which means that the plaintiff cannot bring another lawsuit based on the same facts . This makes sense, because otherwise no defendant would ever pay money in settlement of a litigation if he or she knew that the plaintiff could simply re-file the same lawsuit another day. So, it’s important to understand: When dismissal “with prejudice” is entered as part of a settlement, it does _not_ indicate that anyone has ruled on the merits

of the case.

That’s it for our legal update, but for those of us who are interested in Dr. Crane and his business model, there have been some additional developments. Most important, it appears that Dr. Crane may no longer be performing surgery in the state of California (although his medical license is still current in that state). His prior practice, Brownstein & Crane Surgical Services, seems to be out of business. Any internet searches for brownsteincrane.com result in a re-direct to “Crane Center for Transgender Surgery,” a practice operating in California and Texas. In and of itself, this is not surprising. According to the Crane Center’s Facebook page , Dr. Brownstein retired in 2013, after having performed “thousands of FTM chest surgeries” and passing this extensive knowledge along to Dr.

Crane.

What is notable is that, as of the time of our earlier article in 2018, Brownstein-Crane was a thriving California transgender medical practice. According to the Wayback Machine

,

which is the only source for information on the practice, back in March of 2018, Brownstein-Crane, in addition to Dr. Crane, employed: * Thomas Satterwhite, M.D. (plastic surgeon); * Heidi Wittenberg, M.D. (OB/GYN, surgeon); * Michael Safir, M.D. (uro-genital reconstructive surgeon); * Ashley DeLeon, M.D. (uro-genital surgeon); * Charles Lee, M.D. (micro-surgeon); * David Chang, M.D. (surgeon); * Gabriel Kind, M.D. (plastic surgeon); and * Michael Parrett, M.D. (plastic surgeon). A photograph that appeared on Brownstein-Crane’s now-defunct

website.

Of all those doctors, today only Drs. DeLeon and Safir remain affiliated with Dr. Crane. Dr. Crane now appears to practice in Austin, Texas, and has been joined there by Dr. Richard Santucci (together with Dr. DeLeon); Dr. Safir holds down the fort in San Francisco and has been joined by Dr. Angela Rodriguez. Dr. Crane’s website indicates that information about the Crane Center’s doctors is “coming soon.” It’s not clear when Dr. Santucci joined Dr. Crane’s practice, but he does not appear to have been part of the earlier Brownstein-Crane

incarnation:

Source.

Not to worry, though: Dr. Safir remains busy in San Francisco.

Source.

The Crane Center has wasted no time in accessing potential new patients, sending attractive representatives to attend such conferences as Gender Odyssey in San Diego and the Philadelphia Trans Wellness Conference, and sponsoring art festivals

and pride events

.

For

an added bonus, prospective patients may even be able to receive a free initial surgery consultation, right there at the conference! What is the story behind Dr. Crane’s relocation to Texas? It’s impossible to know. Perhaps some of his current or former patients will enlighten us. ------------------------- Interestingly, on March 7, 2019, Crane’s defense counsel in this case was ordered to pay a $1,800 sanction for “misuse of the discovery process.” Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged Curtis Crane , Curtis Crane malpractice

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